Why Get Yourself a Coach?
Although I have a lot of experience at this point (over 21 years) there’s is always something new to learn. As a coach and mentor I would be doing my coaching and training clients a disservice if I didn’t continue to develop myself. But sometimes, honestly, I find it difficult to dissociate enough to get out of my own way! So depending on the issues I want to resolve, I get myself a coach.
Personal coaches, business coaches, skills coaches and spiritual coaches. In each case I feel I’ve benefitted. I started thinking about what reasons others have given for hiring me as their business, skills or personal coach as well as the reasons I’ve had for hiring a coach. This article is the result. I hope it will encourage you to get yourself a coach.
1. Get unstuck
Sometimes you might know what you want to achieve but be unsure about how to get there. You worry about the order in which to do stuff and, sometimes even figuring out how to get started and where to start can be major issues. A coach can help you map out your journey, no matter how long or short. A good map will have elements of flexibility so you can easily navigate any road blocks that show up and still reach your destination.
2. De-limit limiting beliefs
Quite often these roadblocks show up as limiting beliefs; beliefs that limit you in some way. But the problem is, most limiting beliefs are unconscious — after all why would anyone consciously limit themselves? And if they’re unconscious how do you find and clear them?
A skilled coach will listen carefully to your language, notice any repetitive patterns, look at what’s showing up in your life, question and uncover those dastardly beliefs. Then use some process to help you change them. As a result you stop seeing your life through those negative belief filters and experience life in a more positive way.
3. Find your own answers
A good coach won’t tell you what to do but will question, encourage, guide and support you to tap into your own wisdom and intuition. This can be difficult for some people, especially as many of us have been conditioned by society to ignore or doubt our own inner knowing. Most of us are seeking states of being; happiness, joy, love, connection and we think we’ll achieve those states by ‘doing’ more. But when we’re in the right state of being, we attract what we want easily and effortlessly.
4. Champion You
You coach will be your number one supporter; encouraging and championing you all the way. She will hold you accountable for doing the work you agree to do between coaching sessions, so you can achieve what you set out to achieve. She will know how to help you stay motivated and avoid procrastination. She’ll be the first to acknowledge and help you celebrate your achievements; important steps in building your self or business confidence.
5. Increase your resilience
Everyone suffers pain, sadness, guilt or any number of other unwanted emotions as a result of events or changes in circumstances. A coach can help you embrace your feelings and come to terms with what’s happened. She can provide tools to overcome life’s biggest hurdles and maintain your sense of self-esteem as you move forward, increasing your resilience for dealing with future issues.
6. Turn dreams into reality – or know when to let them go
Anyone can have a dream. But if you fail to take action to turn it into reality, it might well go past it’s use by date. In this way dreams become obsolete. Sometimes our dreams aren’t even ours – they might be goals that society or our family have expected us to achieve. It’s important to recognise this and to create dreams that are yours and that inspire you. A good coach will help you turn dreams into goals and challenge you to start taking action to make them a reality.
7. Discover what you want – what you really, really want!
What if your problem is that you don’t know what you want?
This can be a dilemma for a lot of people. They know deep inside they have more to offer the world and truly desire a meaningful life. Your coach should have a range of tools to assist you in discovering your values so you can drill down on what naturally motivates you. Determining your mission or purpose might involve connecting the threads of your life and weaving them together to form a blanket that encompasses who you are. It’s not something you need to make up, but is more like detecting the clues from the different aspects of your life.
Of course it’s one thing to have a mission – and another entirely to live it.
Your coach can assist you to define the steps that will lead to living a meaningful life of passion and purpose and then support and encourage you as you get started.
8. Learn and grow
As human beings we have an innate need to grow and develop. Fortunately, most coaching involves an element of learning. After all if you don’t learn anything new, how will you ever do anything different? You coach might teach you ways to improve your success or might guide you to some further beneficial learning that will expedite your goals.
9. Stop doing things you don’t like
You might not only want to create some new and useful behaviours, but you might also want to let go of behaviours that aren’t particularly useful. Perhaps you allow others to, ‘push your buttons’ but would like to cultivate a more considered response. Maybe you want to change your relationship to money so you can attract more abundance into your life? Possibly you want to get rid of a phobia, anxiety or stress? A good coach should be able to help rid you of these because they will inhibit your success; personally and professionally.
10. Prevent you from making mistakes
Mistakes are a great way of learning. But that doesn’t mean you have to make them all yourself! By talking through your plans with your coach, she can offer an objective view and perhaps suggest some alternative, less risky, cheaper or quicker ways of achieving the same outcome.
11. Improve your communication skills
A coach should have a extensive knowledge of effective communication and be an excellent listener. As such she can teach you ways to get the best from people (including yourself) based on the way you communicate, both verbally and non verbally. You’ll improve your ability to positively influence, motivate and get along with others.
12. Increase your self confidence
In the process of coaching you’ll get deep insights into what really motivates and demotivates you; behavioural patterns that you weren’t aware of, or beliefs that are keeping you stuck. You’ll get honest, caring feedback to assist you in being more of who you are and how you want to show up in the world. You’ll be challenged, but at the same time get the assistance you need to move past any fears that might be holding you back. Fulfilling a goal increases your self esteem and gives you confidence to set more challenging goals.
As a result you grow and develop more rapidly than if you did things on your own. Your achievements and your self-confidence will sky-rocket.