95% of the time, your mind is on auto-pilot
While this is useful for the day-to-day activities we’ve consciously learnt, it’s not so helpful when we find ourselves behaving automatically, in response to a trigger.
When we’re learning something, we need to concentrate 100%
But once we’re proficient, we can do it on auto-pilot. While operating on auto-pilot is convenient and practical in many aspects of our lives, some of our automatic behaviours might not be that helpful. Many of these unwanted responses we learnt as children, by watching and listening to the adults around us. We didn’t necessarily consciously learn these habits but absorbed them unconsciously. Under stress, we often react in the auto-pilot ways we acquired as children.
We need the auto-pilot part of us
Once we’ve practiced and can do something well, our auto-pilot mind takes care of it, and this frees us up to learn new skills and behaviours.
In this podcast, we talk about how, when we examine our unwanted behaviours, we will find that something triggers in us an adverse reaction. Unfortunately, the trigger is often outside our conscious awareness. Finding out what the trigger is, is part of what I, and other NLP coaches get paid for! By discovering the trigger, we can then help the person respond differently to the trigger by using NLP techniques to make changes.
Behaving like your parents
Like Aaron and myself, you may have experienced yourself automatically acting like your parents; by responding with language or action that seems to be theirs rather than yours – even though it doesn’t make sense to us consciously.
In the interview I give an example of working with a client who, when he came home to a messy house — his trigger — responded in a way that upset the whole household. Listen as I describe a reframing technique I used to rattle the unhelpful thinking pattern and then used an NLP tool to change the way he responded. We talk about how all change is unconscious – and there’s a couple of specific examples to illustrate how people who have changed phobias and allergies, quickly forget they ever had a problem!
Phobias often result from a one-time, short exposure to something
It makes sense that given our brains enormous capacity, phobias should be correctable almost as quickly as we acquire them. We chat about how the same techniques used to change phobias can also be useful for people who’ve experienced trauma over a period of a few minutes or several years.
Aaron thought that these ‘quick fixes’ sounded like ‘cheating’!
While they are quick, an NLP Practitioner will have had lots of training and practice to be able to effect these rapid changes.
We also talk about the ‘Inside Your Mind’ course and eBook. We examine how our thoughts impact how we feel, and how we can change the composition of our thoughts, so we feel differently. For example, we usually frame something we’re motivated to do in a different way to something about which we’re unmotivated. I give a couple of real-life examples that you might be able to relate to, including Jeremy’s story. (scroll down page)