Goals, goals, goals!
Some people just love the challenge of setting and achieving their goals; they feel motivated and inspired and have a concrete idea of what the goal will look, sound and feel like as it comes to fruition.
For other people ‘goals’ is almost a dirty word
Often, the reason isn’t that they don’t want to grow and achieve, but they might have failed in the past (sometimes on more than one occasion) and now have an ingrained belief that setting goals simply doesn’t work for them. Or they might prefer to take life as it comes.
Whatever the reason, according to Statistic Brain Research Institute just 8% of people achieve their New years resolutions each year. Over the holidays I read somewhere — and forgot to note where! — that people set the same goal ten times before they actually achieve it. TEN times!
That doesn’t mean that you need to be one of these statistics
Typically, people set goals such as; lose weight (top ranked goal) be more organised, stop smoking, get a new job/career/work for myself etc.
These aren’t really goals
They’re just short statements! For example if you were sitting in front of me and told me that your goal was to lose weight I would ask you the following questions:
How much weight? What do you want to weigh when you’ve lost the weight? When are you going to start? What will happen if you don’t achieve it? Why is it important? What benefits will you gain by achieving it? What could stop you achieving it? How can you mitigate this? Etc etc.
Picture yourself tied to a chair under a white hot spotlight in a bare interrogation room with me standing over you wearing a trilby hat pulled down to shield my eyes!
But seriously, unless you can answer these and a whole lot of other questions, then your goal isn’t tangible enough to make it happen.
Can you clearly visualise the end result?
Clearly visualising the end result gives you something compelling to aim for. For example if you wanted to stop smoking, you might visualise yourself being more active, spending more quality time around people you like (without having to slip away for a fag), having lovely smelling skin and clothes and a clear complexion. You might notice you can breathe more easily and laugh without coughing. The more detail you can add to the visualisation the more compelling it’s likely to be. Remember to associate into the visualisation and add feelings, sounds, tastes, smells as well. Notice what you’ll be saying to yourself when you’ve reached the goal.
This visualisation should make you really excited about achieving your goal.
Now make a negative visualisation as well
This might seem a little counter-intuitive. But just as the positive image will draw you towards the goal, a negative image of what ‘failure-to-achieve-your-goal’ will look like, will move you away from what you don’t want. Make it just as realistic as the positive visualisation but with all the horrible characteristics you’re trying to move away from.
Why visualise success and failure?
Often we have two motivating factors operating when we’re goal setting; We want to move towards our desired goal while moving away from the current situation. So creating a positive visualisation of the desired end result and a negative visualisation of what you don’t want will give you a double whammy in the bid to kick start your goal.
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- To make your goal come to life ask yourself these questions
- What do I want? (Be specific)
- What will I gain by achieving it?
- What will happen if I don’t achieve it?
- Why is it important?
- What could stop me achieving it?
- When am I going to start?
- What are the first few steps I’m going to take to get it?
- How am I going to fit this goal into my life?
- Clearly visualise the achievement of your goal. (Include all your senses)
- Clearly visualise the non-achievement of your goal. (Include all your senses)
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