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24 Oct 2018

When NLP Doesn’t Work

This is a really juicy interview!

What happens when NLP doesn’t work? Aaron Mooar from Raglan Radio participated in the Blueprint for Excellence course in September and wanted to talk, in this interview, about something that happened during one of the exercises.

Quite simply — It didn’t work!

It was an anchoring exercise designed for one participant to assist another to feel calm in a situation that was causing agitation. Aaron had carefully taken the other participant through the exercise, as demonstrated. But somehow it just wasn’t going according to plan and the other participant wasn’t becoming any calmer.

When NLP doesn't work

Aaron called me over to try and sort out what was going on, and why the exercise didn’t seem to be running as it should — especially when everyone else seemed to be getting great results.

When NLP doesn’t work

So in this podcast I explain briefly what an anchor is and why, in this particular instance, the exercise didn’t work. I give some examples of how we’re anchored to hundreds, if not thousands of things every day. And we talk about how I resolved the issue during the training. As we discuss how the brain works, it becomes clear why and how we can so easily misinterpret others language and behaviour. Aaron commented that it all sounds too easy. I think we’ve been conditioned to think that change has to take a long time, that’s why we’re suspicious of something that seems simple.

Annoying People

We consider why the more you focus on irritating habits, the more you notice them. We take in masses of information each second and — for the most part — unconsciously. Your brain deletes, distorts and generalises data to form your perception of reality. It’s your interpretation of reality that affects how you feel rather than reality itself.  Aaron reminded me of an exercise we did on the course, where everyone in the room perceived a single sentence in a different way!

Much of what you ‘think’ is outside of your conscious awareness — but can still cause problems. This is why changes should also be made at the unconscious level — because people don’t consciously create issues for themselves.

NLP, of course, does work

So, when NLP doesn’t work, it usually means the Practitioner is using the wrong tool for the job. Like most skills, you need the right tool at the right time. A skilled NLP Practitioner will have the expertise to see and hear what’s beyond a client’s conscious thinking. They can uncover and resolve the underlying unconscious issues — so it seems like magic — and simple.

Take a listen! I think you’ll enjoy it.


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